In plain English, the secret to surviving a breakup is nothing more than time. This truth may however not settle down well with someone who has just been through a breakup but remains the only true key to recovering from the pain of a breakup.
Surviving a breakup can be a daunting task but ultimately you have to come to terms with the fact that only time can truly heal all the hurt and doubts that the breakup might have caused. The time it takes to heal is really a matter of how soon you are able to come to terms with the reality on the ground and to understand that a breakup is not the end of the world.
You should by all means stop any act of self-pitying over the breakup. Moreover, you should get hold of yourself and avoid trying to seclude yourself from the rest of the world. In your present condition, you need to have friends and family beside you as support and source of encouragement. Hiding away all by yourself is depressing and can only compound the weight of the anguish you are feeling.
There is also the temptation to use quick fixes in getting yourself out of this state of despair. Most of these quick fixes give you the illusion of having taken away the pains howbeit only for a while but actually end up causing more pain both to you and others around you.
One such quick fix is the use of alcohol. What most people don’t understand is that alcohol is actually a depressant and while it makes you forget your pains temporarily, it ends up intensifying the pain you are going through. And definitely you do not want to get involved in drunk dialing to your ex in this state of mind.
Also, during this time there is the temptation of finding someone to temporarily hook up with. This can be a very tricky move because while hoping that your ex will get jealous when they hear about it, you are equally unintentionally hurting someone else.
To help ease the pain and heal the wounds of the breakup, it is a good idea to find things that can help distract you for a while, things that will take your mind off all the negative feelings you might be feeling at the moment. The kind of distraction or hobby you choose to use in this case have a direct effect on how long it might take you to heal and how it affects your ex’s perception about your handling of the breakup.
Think of activities that have the most potential of keeping you engaged mentally and physically. Activities that involve a lot of other people will also give you ample opportunity to make new friends and acquaintances who can easily fill the void in your heart and take your mind away from the pain of the breakup.
You could use this time to acquire a new skill, take extra lessons on a new and interesting subject or even take a break from work and go on a vacation if you have the time and can afford it. Additionally you can try getting in shape by joining a local gym. The goal is to essentially use this period to make self improvements that will positively help you move forward in your personal and social life.
No matter how painful a breakup might be, one has to come to a point when he or she must decide to let it all go and move on with life. Breaking up with your ex does hurt and there is no easy way around it. However, to help you heal faster, you should get involved in positive and creative self-development activities to keep your mind occupied while you ease the pain and heal the wounds from the breakup.