8 Reasons Why You Can Find A Lifetime Friend in Your Cousin

 

You can always be counting on your family before anyone else. And life gets you going social and you have to be independent on your own. But can you always depend on your friends for everything in life?? Maybe, not always. This is why God gave us cousins. They are the first link we have to kinship after our parents. And we spend a lot of time with them while growing up. In this post we will also discuss that why you can find your lifetime friend in your cousin:

#1 They Will Never Leave You Alone

Your cousins are your great friends, but they are not prone to change in time and circumstances. They will never leave by your side or at least even if they are busy or drift apart, you guys will be back in some point or the other. This is a great kind of security that you look for in friendships.

#2 They Have The Best Stories To Share With You

Your cousins will remind you of all the fun times you’ve had. Your childhood stories, your secrets, your family inside jokes and everything that has ever mattered to you. They will also share those best friendship SMS with you and all the jokes because they belong to your generation and are the best friends you can imagine. Even if you grow up and drift apart, they know a lot more about you and will always find a footing in your life. They are not just family but friends to be cherished for life. And also you can share your secrets with them which even your parents do not know.

#3 They Will Not Break Your Trust

Your cousins know you values and stories. They recognize the kind of person you are. You might have fights or disagreements, but be sure that they will keep your back. Also they would put up against any force that goes against you even if they are angry with you. That is the power of similar bloodline.

#4 They Know You Better Than All Your Friends

You cousins were there when you guys were kindergartners. Your cousins were there when you were in high school. And they will most likely be somewhere in your life even if you lose touch with them for a while. They know everything about you, your story, your history, the kind of things that break your heart. They likely never made a mind to put up against you so they know you better than your regular friends.

#5 After All They Are Your Family

Your cousins are somehow somewhere just your second family outside of your home. You guys are connected with a bond which goes beyond the logic of worldly rules and friendships based on needs. They are God’s source of sending friends to you. So you support them as much as they support you, as simple as that!

#6 They Have Seen You Through All Your Times

Your cousins are truly the kind of people who understand your journey, your struggles and the kind of person you have become. Therefore you do not have to explain them anything anyway. This is a great premise and makes up for the kind of friendship that is actually a lifetime affair! Unlike your general friends who might not know the kind of things that hurt you and might end up spoiling their friendship with you.

#7 They Know Your Worth

Your cousins are your life time friends because they will never loose you and they will do anything to keep up with you. They know your true worth. Your cousins are not outsiders, they know your value and worth, therefore they will not leave you and find a lifetime support in them for sure.

#8 They Are The First Childhood Friends You Have

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To Tolerate or Not To Tolerate

Pleasing others is not something I set out to do on a regular basis, however, I do care about the one’s I consider to be my friends, as well as their overall happiness. I also like to contribute to their happiness if I can. But to what point does one realize that their actions in this aspect are not even recognized, merely because the “other” person may not think in that perspective? I never have been real good at being a friend; so therefore, I never really had many friends. I have always known people, categorizing them as acquaintances, rather than friends. I have also had a few friendships where both of us had pretty much considered our friendship as the coined “best” friend status, but those were never able to stand the tests of time.

The older I get, the less I socialize, and the less I find that I want to even go through the process of obtaining and maintaining friends. To only result in leaving me friendless in the end. However, along the way I have encountered a few lifelong, honest to god friends. At times I do find myself questioning the rights and wrongs, as well as expected duties required by me to my very limited amount of real friends. I often feel that I just don’t quite measure up to others expectations or standards, when really I just don’t know how to act, due to my lack of “friendship” experience. I find that I am constantly trying to make someone happy, or trying to do what I can to live up to their expectations. I feel that no matter what I say, I always seem to choose the wrong reply. I have even began to test out this lil’ theory of mine by meticulously replying with different responses than I normally would, just to see if the other responses are actually what the other is wanting to hear. I have found that it does not matter what I say, they seem to always be the wrong reply, thus leading me to conclude that maybe it is not me, nor is it my lack thereof that is the real problem.

I conclude that deep within the other person must lay some form of personal resentment in regards to me, and that they call me a friend, but really they are just merely tolerating me. Hmmmm. To wrap my head around this? Blog this*!

The older I get, the less I socialize, and the less I find that I want to even go through the process of obtaining and maintaining friends. They call me a friend, but really they are just merely tolerating me.

 

Why you need to avoid fake friends.

There are certain people you will meet in life who will try to put you down and limit your potential. You need to identify these people and avoid them like the plague. Their mere presence will have disastrous effects upon you as they will try to subvert you from your true goals in life.

Continue reading “Why you need to avoid fake friends.”

How to make Friends

 

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1. Go in Blind

How about a blind date? Well you don’t have to kiss the person, especially if they have funky breath or something, you just have to meet them. Have someone you do know set you up with a stranger. It is almost like a little adventure. You could even use social media to find someone. If things go poorly you’ll be less likely to freak out about it since you are just out looking for a friend instead of a lover.

2. Do you

Coming back to the cliché category, you should just try being yourself. I know I know I hate that phrase too. Every person has heard it, and the first thing that pops into your head is, “well I’ve been trying that for 20 years and look where that has got me!” Well think of it a little different. Instead of be yourself, try don’t be afraid to be yourself. Do the things you like to do. You want to go skydiving? Go do it, but first give me your bank account info just in case. If you like to read, go do so at a library or bookstore. There is a very good chance that people with similar interests can be found out doing the things you like to do. If someone catches your eye in

troduce yourself, you can even go in blind! Just don’t knock stuff over.

3. Smile

This might seem like a no brainer, but everyone around you feels more comfortable when a person is smiling. And did you know that people who smile are seen as more attractive, nicer, and more approachable than those with a neutral expression? So go ahead and show those pearly whites, and if they are not so white, try Crest.

And those are some of the tips and tricks I have on making friends. I’m always looking for new ideas so check back often! Making friends is not ea

sy, but everyone is looking for friends. So go in blind if you have to, don’t be afraid to be yourself, don’t be afraid to ask personal questions, and set some goals for yourself. And remember to smile!

4. Keep Trying

It is easy to give up after one rejection after another, but do not give up! Making friends it not easy, just like pursuing a romantic interest. Yo

u pass notes to them like in grade school, you send flowers, and you invite them out to thing you know they like. You can do these things for friends too. Maybe not flowers, a card will do. It could be as easy as sending a coworker an email asking if they want to get lunch.

Remember to be yourself, ask questions that develop intimacy and don’t give up. Stay friendly everyone!