Relationship breakups have the tendency of throwing any individual into a world of agony, despair, haunting memories and emotions. And the longer the relationship, stronger these tendencies get and getting over your ex becomes more difficult and takes longer.
The breakup might have been the right thing to do but that still doesn’t take away the pain and emotional turmoil it puts one through. The same can to a large extent be said of a relationship where the couples haven’t been together for that long because the same emotional upheavals can surface and almost with the same intensity.
Having said that, let’s get back to the main issue here – handling the emotional turmoil resulting from the breakup with your ex. You may at this point be feeling like the breakup was all your fault and start feeling guilty about it. However, whether it was your fault or not will not help matters if you remain this way, therefore you have to let go of these feelings of guilt. Equally, you might have done something to your ex that you feel you need to apologize for, you will do exactly that to help clear your mind, but not just now, give yourself some time to stronger first.
One emotional aspect when going through a breakup that can seriously affect any individual is the feeling of sadness. While a little crying and being sad may be normal, these should not be engaged in for too long. You have to watch out for these are they can easily lead to clinical depression. One good advice at this stage would be for you to never be alone for too long, isolation will only make the situation worse and therefore you need to find trusted friends and family members to be around you for support and encouragement.
Also, anger and oftentimes a destructive type may want to get the better of you at some point during this period of healing from the breakup with your ex. Anger at this moment can do only one thing and that is to worsen an already complicated issue. This is where forgiveness comes in. You need to first and foremost, “forgive yourself” and then forgive your ex for the breakup and any other thing you might be holding against them.
One thing that can help you get over these emotional turmoil is boosting your self-confidence. I know you’ll say that’s the last thing you think you can do now, but it’s going to be a gradual process and you’ll get there before you know it. The trick here is for you to get involved in some social or personal activities to help occupy your mind and so think less about the breakup itself.
You can start going out more often with your friends and colleagues at work, enroll in a dance class or even register at your local gym to get a fitter and trimmer you. These activities will make you feel happier with time and definitely help boost your self-confidence.
Frankly speaking, there is no simply way to get out of this depressive state with all the emotions that might be running through you because of the breakup with your ex. Your ability to get yourself back together and fight these emotions in a healthy way will make it easier for you to be able to get back together with your ex or move on to a new relationship.